I think interracial (or any kind of) dating can be a wonderful experience that should ideally be free of judgement or condemnation. While I don’t subscribe to the idea of being color blind, I do think it’s awesome when people can love each other despite whatever differences there are between them.
However in situations like yours, I often empathize with the people judging since these rigid ‘preferences’ tend to be hooks used to hang a persons prejudices on.
"I like white girls because [insert stereotype or generalization.]"
"I don’t like black girls because [insert stereotype or generalization.]"
In my experience - which I admit has a limited reach… but it’s the only mechanism I have to share my opinion - people who don’t find the characteristics of their own ethnicity attractive tend to offer explanations of bigotry when they explain why they “find other races more attractive.”
Maybe it’s not always the case, but it seems from my experience to be the norm. It’s that norm, not necessarily the individual, that many black women find disgusting.
This isn’t even getting into the topic of black men that have histrionically (and recently judging by many hip hop artist that have) associated non-black women with higher social status or sophistication.
But regardless, you aren’t really obligated to get anyone to understand or accept your preferences. I’m not sure what you are looking for when you go around telling “countless” black women that you aren’t attracted to them, or others that look like them - oh except for the token ones who get the ‘you’re pretty for a black girl’ treatment.
I’m cool with you wanting to fuck [insert your desired race] but it’s incredibly mean spirited and patronizing to look for black women - the same women you single out as less attractive- to validate your preference, and then when they don’t, use it as continued reasoning for your preference.
Running seems like a great idea until you actually start running
Making me jealous will only push me away from you. It won’t make me want you more. I’m not very competitive, if I see someone who’s making you a lot happier than I am, I’ll back up because I’ll assume you want that person a lot more. Although it’ll hurt seeing someone other than me make you happy, I’ll leave it to them to keep you entertained. I don’t like the feeling of being unwanted or being just second best. I’m a very jealous person and I hate it.